One Line Stress - Busters by Swami Chinmayananda

Management Tips

One Line Stress - Busters

Swami Chinmayananda


Even if one of these is applied in our lives, stress can be reduced to a large extent and finally eliminated.

1. Be yourself. Don't imitate others.

You were created an original. Don't die as a duplicate.

2. Work is love made visible. All else is merely labour.

Do what you 'Love' and 'Love' what you do.

3. Stop all comparisons.

Compare yourself with yourself alone and no one else. You are the measuring rod for your growth, not anyone else.

4. Think, don't brood.

To brood is to abuse the faculty of the mind. To think is to put it to use.Don't brood over regrets of the past and anxieties of the future.

5. Keep the mind where the hands are at work.

6. Do the best, leave the rest.

Surrender the anxieties for the fruit of action, to the Lord or at a higher altar.

7. Plan out your work. Work out your Plan.

8. Success is not in the trophy won, but in the race run.

Enquire into your notions of success. What is success and failure for you?

9. What we have is a Gift from Him. What we do with what we have is our Gift to Him.

Count your blessings and Be Positive. Don't criticize, blame or look down upon yourself.

10. Daily prayer and meditation are all wonderful therapeutic agencies in building up peace and happiness within an individual.

(Contributed by: Lakshmy)

Learning to Dance in the Rain...

An excerpt from
Learning to Dance in the Rain
by Mac Anderson and BJ Gallagher

The date was July 16, 2008. It was late in the afternoon and I was sitting in my hotel room in Louisville, Kentucky. I was scheduled to speak that evening for the Kentucky Association of School Administrators (KASA). I was a little "down in the dumps." I hadn't gotten to exercise lately because of my traveling schedule and recently I'd experienced some mild bouts of vertigo (that inner ear condition that can cause the room to start spinning.) You got it...speaking and "spinning" are not good partners!

My keynote presentation was scheduled for 7:00 PM, but I had been invited to show up at 6:00 to see a performance they said I'd enjoy. Little did I know that I was about to see something I would never forget.

They introduced the young musician. Welcome...Mr. Patrick Henry Hughes. He was rolled onto the stage in his wheelchair, and began to play the piano. His fingers danced across the keys as he made beautiful music.

He then began to sing as he played, and it was even more beautiful. For some reason, however, I knew that I was seeing something special. There was this aura about him that I really can't explain and the smile...his smile was magic!

About ten minutes into Patrick's performance, someone came on the stage and said..."I'd like to share a 7-minute video titled, The Patrick Henry Hughes story." And the lights went dim.

Patrick Henry Hughes was born with no eyes, and a tightening of the joints which left him crippled for life. However, as a child, he was fitted with artificial eyes and placed in a wheelchair. Before his first birthday, he discovered the piano. His mom said, "I could hit any note on the piano, and within one or two tries, he'd get it." By his second birthday, he was playing requests (You Are My Sunshine, Twinkle Twinkle Little Star). His father was ecstatic. "We might not play baseball, but we can play music together."

Today, Patrick is a junior at the University of Louisville. His father attends classes with him and he's made nearly all A's, with the exception of 3 B's He's also a part of the 214 member marching band. You read it right...the marching band! He's a blind, wheelchair-bound trumpet player; and he and his father do it together. They attend all the band practices and the half-time performance in front of thousands. His father rolls and rotates his son around the field to the cheers of Patrick's fans. In order to attend Patrick's classes and every band practice, his father works the graveyard shift at UPS. Patrick said..."My dad's my hero."

But even more than his unbelievable musical talent, it was Patrick's "attitude of gratitude" that touched my soul. On stage, between songs, he would talk to the audience about his life and about how blessed he was. He said, "God made me blind and unable to walk. BIG DEAL! He gave me the ability...the musical gifts I have...the great opportunity to meet new people."

When his performance was over, Patrick and his father were on the stage together. The crowd rose to their feet and cheered for over five minutes. It gave me giant goose bumps!

My life was ready to meet Patrick Henry Hughes. I needed a hero, and I found one for the ages. If I live to be a hundred, I'll never forget that night, that smile, that music, but most importantly, that wonderful "attitude of gratitude."

I returned to Chicago and shared Patrick's story with my wife, my friends, and our team at Simple Truths. About two weeks later, I received a letter from a friend. He said, "Mac, I don't know who said it, but I think you'll love this quote."

"Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass...
it's about learning how to dance in the rain!"

I thought...that's it! We all face adversity in our life. However, it's not the adversity, but how we react to it that will determine the joy and happiness in our life. During tough times, do we spend too much time feeling sorry for ourselves, or, can we, with gratitude...learn how to dance in the rain?

It almost sounds too simple to feel important, but one word...gratitude, can change your attitude, thus, your life, forever. Sarah Breathnack said it best...

"When we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that's present....we experience heaven on earth."

You can Win ! (Courtesy: Shiv Khera)

We can only inspire people, not motivate them....
Change of mind can work miracles, beliefs & convictions can bring about the impossible!!

Be a Winner ! (Courtesy: Shiv Khera)

Shiv Khera talks about characteristics of winners.

Rising India - 2009 (Contributed by Venugopal)

MAY YOU BE BLESSED.....MOVIE

Laughter is the best form of relaxation, take a break and enjoy...

ALZHEIMER'S DISEASE - A must know facts for all.

SECRET OF SUCCESS !

The secret is finally revealed!

Politicians, Popes, Leading Scientists, Kings and Army Leaders have been using the secret to achieve all their miraculous Success through their lifetime.

Now the secret is available for us. It is hard to believe it and accept it but, that makes it so important. It is simple like a Child Play. Jus keep on reading....

The first part of the secret is: We attract and create everything happening in our life.

It is called The Law Of Attraction. It is difficult to accept that someone can bring himself a cancer or a horrible accident, but it is a scientifically fact, proven by the Quantum Physics.

The power of our thoughts is enormous and goes far beyond the limits of the body. Our thoughts are like a very strong magnet attracting everything which is in synch so we think about bad stuff like being in debt or becoming and more of the same is coming to us.

We know it is almost impossible to generate a positive thought when we are surrounded by bad circumstances. But this is where the game starts. We have to understand that, those bad circumstances, surrounding us right now have been created by us, our negative thoughts attracted and continue to attract that bad stuff.

It is like a vicious circle or more correct a spiral going down and down. How to stop that? Reverse our thoughts. Here comes the most difficult part: Can we control our thoughts? The fact is that one can do that unless in possession of a super power. How an ordinary human being can achieve that control? The answer is by watching emotions. It turns out that emotions are even easier to control and they can affect our thoughts.

Every time we catch ourselves in a bad mood of Negative emotion -- Switch to a Positive one. This is the clue. We have to create a Vision, Recall an event from your life, where we have been extremely Happy, and call this moment every time we find ourselves in a Bad Mood or Emotion. How simple is that every one can do it. It takes a part of second to make it happened. Let’s reveal the three practical steps about creating our life.

Step one:

Ask for it. Write on a piece of paper what we want. Draw a picture, make a photograph and put it on the wall in the spot we can see it easily.

Step Two:

Bring it. This is not our part. It is obligation of the universe to bring to us whatever we ask for. We have no power to know How Is This Going To Happen?

Step Three:

Receive it. We have to prepare ourselves for receiving what we have asked for. Here comes the obligation to keep the positive emotions and thoughts on synch of what we are asking for.

Deep inside of us have to be, absolute faith that the thing we asked for is On Its Way To us. We have to start seeing it materialized and act as it is already here. And the most important part of the game, as it is already here we have to be grateful to the Universe Creator, God ( sai ) or whatever we call it, which is bringing our desire to us. This is the most important part to understand and apply. If we send a Thank You message to the Universe for a something which is not yet materialized, then the Universe has no chance but to deliver it us as soon as possible.

And the last part of our preparation is:

Give whatever we want to be given. If we want money – start giving money. If we need help start helping others. The secret is now revealed to us. It is so simple and powerful and has been in use for ages. It is difficult to believe in it and that is what is going to separate the Winners from the Losers in this life.

Let Us All use it and enjoy every bit of our lives Here and Now!

(Courtesy: Priya)

Boss making passes? Tips to handle it with care : (Courtesy: Priya)

The corny but scary office scenario goes something like this:

The boss runs after the female subordinate. The pat on the bottom and the leering at the clevage follows.

So, how does one cope with the leers, innuendos and gropes !

If it was a co-worker, you can take it to the boss. But what do you do if it's the boss himself who can't seem to control his testosterone?

Real or imaginary

Make sure that it's not just your imagination and that the boss is really predatory.

Dress codeGals, it always comes back to this. Wear less clingy clothes to work. Show off your knowledge and expertise, not your clevage.

Watch your words and actions

The businesslike handing over of a file can be quite different from a languid gesture that invites a fumble. Don't succumb to flattery and send wrong signals that may be difficult to handle.

Handle with kid gloves

It is not easy to antagonise the Boss. Stare back pointedly, gently joke about the leer without getting emotional. Do it with others around; the public embarrassment may stop it. If it is your bosom, say, "Is there a spot on my dress?" or "Did I wear my husband's/boyfriend's/brother's shirt by mistake?" "Do you like my blouse? You can get the same at XYZ for your wife !".

Avoid solo contact

Not easy, especially when you are asked to come into the boss's cabin and close the door. Tell a colleague about the meeting. Glass-walled and modular offices are great, so try to maintain dignity. Keep the table between you at all times.

Get support

Confide in a co-worker. In the presence of others, discuss sexual harassment in a movie or serial, especially when the boss is in hearing distance! They can bear witness if the affair becomes official or a legal issue.

Keep a record

Record incidents, occasions, dates etc. of episodes to strengthen your case and show a pattern of harassment.

Dont go emo, cope up:

1) If the behaviour continues, object politely but firmly-no tears please.

2) Firmly push away the groping hand.

3) Say loudly, "Stop! You are invading my personal space."

4) Repeat sexual innuendos or doubtful statements in a loud voice and ask what he means, very effective when there are others around.

5) Leave out pamphlets or articles around on sexual harassment.

6) Use the phrase "sexual harassment" or "sexual assault" freely and frequently when he is around.

7) Complain to HR if it continues even if your leery Boss is the top man. Explain the situation and your discomfort. A safe working environment is part of your contract.

8) If all else fails, bite the bullet! Look for another job.

Three Powerful Words : (Courtesy: Priya)

A funny story is told about General George Patton from his World War II days. He once accepted an invitation to dine at a press camp in Africa. Wine was served in canteen cups but, obviously thinking he was served coffee, Patton poured cream into his cup. As he stirred in sugar, Patton was warned that his cup contained red wine and not coffee.

Now, General Patton could never, never be wrong. Without hesitating he replied, "I know. I like my wine this way." And he drank it! I relate this story because I see something of myself, and perhaps most of us, here. It is difficult to admit mistakes. It is hard to admit when we are wrong. Three of life's most difficult words to say are, "I was wrong."

But they are also three of the most powerful words we can utter. "I was wrong" breaks down barriers between people. It brings estranged people together. And it creates a climate where intimacy and love may flourish. You may be surprised at how positively many people respond to the words, "I was wrong"!

Naturally, it is a risk. But to admit when you are wrong is not to confess that you are a "bad" person. Simply an honest one and true friends will appreciate you for it.Whole and happy lives are built by people who have learned the power of intimacy, in part, through the use of the words "I was wrong."

Training Yourself For Better Concentration (Courtesy: Vasanth)

Concentration means directing one's attention on whatever one intends. We all have a natural ability to concentrate. Have you noticed how difficult it is to get young children's attention when they are playing? Do you remember the time when you were completely engrossed in an interesting novel, a super film, an exciting match or an exhilarating piece of music? You were concentrating then. At this very moment you are reading these words, you are concentrating.



It helps to know what it is like to concentrate, so that you can get back to that state of being.



What is poor concentration?



When people say that they can't concentrate, it usually means that they cannot stay focused on one thing for as long as they would like. Most of us experience lapses in concentration every day. We are not usually concerned about it; we may not even notice these lapses in concentration. They only become a problem when we find that we cannot get things done as quickly as we would like, or when they cause us to make mistakes.



You do not concentrate when you allow your environment to distract you, and/or your thoughts and feelings to interrupt you. Your thoughts are scattered; your mind jumps from one thing to another like a monkey. It helps to learn and to practice concentration strategies, to harness your monkey mind, so that it works at your will. If you know the causes of your poor concentration, you can learn to control these factors.



Factors that may cause poor concentration



Lack of concentration is one of the frequent complaints among students mainly due to distraction. There are two types of distractions: external and internal.



External Distractions



External distractions are related to the physical environment of your study area. Once you have identified these distractions, it is often easy to deal with them. Some of the common external distractions are:



a. Noise; conversations

b. Inappropriate furniture; inadequate lighting

c. Interruption from other people; telephone , mobile, sms

d. Television, FM Radion, mp3 player

e. Work: paid or unpaid; housework

f. The Internet; email



Internal Distractions



Internal distractions are related to you: your body, your thoughts and your emotions. Some of them can be easily dealt with once they are identified. Others can be managed with practice and/or with a little help. Some of the common internal distractions are:



a. Hunger; tiredness; illness

b. Lack of motivation; boredom; lack of interest

c. Personal worries; stress; anxiety

d. Negative thinking

e. Daydreaming

f. Lack of organization; dyslexia

Inspirational Movie (Courtesy: Naveen)

Words of wisdom - a must download & watch presentation

An arrow can be shot only by dragging it backward.
So whenever Life pulls you backward
Don't Worry - It is an indication of a path leading you towards victory.
Words - Powerful than swords.
Let's see whether the attached Words of Wisdom have impact on our thinking tanks.

Click here to download and watch this beautiful presentation with your speakers on.

To All Married Couples and Singles Who Intend to Get Married (Worth reading this)

To All Married Couples and Singles Who Intend to Get Married (Worth reading this)
(contibuted by Anik Mehta)

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to lether know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset.

I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest... I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning...

This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.

Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote:'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart'

The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy.

Do have a real happy marriage!

WHERE ARE YOU RIGHT NOW (REAL MORAL STORY)

A mother and baby camel lazing around, suddely the baby camel asked.....

BABY: mother, mother may I ask you some Question?

BABY: why do camels have humps?

Mother: well son, we are DESERT ANIMALs, we need hums to store water and we are known to survive without water.

BABY: Okay, then why are our legs long and feet Rounded?

MOTHER: Son Obviously theya re meant for walking in the desert, you know with these legs we can move around the desert better than anyone else !

BABY: Then why are our eyelashes long? some times it bother my eyes.

MOTHER: My son, those long thick eyelashes are your protective cover. they help to protect your eyes from the desert sand and winds.

BABY: I see. so the humps is to store water when we are in the desert, the legs are for walking through the desert and these eyelashes protect my eyes from the desert - THEN WHAT ARE WE DOING HERE IN THE ZzzoooooO !?

Moral Of The Story: Skills, Knowledge, Abilities and Experiences are only useful if you are in the right Place(Where are you right Now?)

The Inner Child...

The "Inner Child" is the:

• Little child you were who desired to be nurtured, cared for, and loved. This child still resides within you as an adult.
• Free spirit, pixie, and elf you have tamed and controlled, yet who resides within you.
• Emotional and sensitive you whom you have channeled, controlled, and silenced and who is still living within you.
• Creative, imaginative, and artistic you who has been molded, structured, and organized; who still resides in you and is needing to be set free.
• Hurt, pained, neglected, frustrated, abused, and ignored you whom you have masked, hidden from view, and denied the existence of. This child is always just below the surface, causing you to be anxious, worried, and fearful of mistreatment.
• Fun loving, happy, frivolous, joyful, humorous you when you were young and unsophisticated; that person you have replaced with a sophisticated, mature, serious, task oriented demeanor.
• Childhood you have lost or forgotten; yet it still resides in you, dwelling in your subconscious.
• Person who knows how to have fun and play for play's sake; who can help you prevent burnout and manage the stress in your life.
• Person you could be as an adult if you lightened up, let go of your seriousness, overcame your fears, and accepted flexibility and change in your life.
• Person within you who needs healing, support, and reinforcement through a variety of Tools for Coping activities. Through this you can be given new life, health, and a chance for personal growth.

How did the "Inner Child" get there?

The "Inner Child":

• Resides in every adult person.
  
• Lives in every adult because it is captured in the brain's memory bank.
  
• Exists in the memory or subconscious because each one of us has poignant memories of our past that shape our present motivation and future drive.
  
• Exists because when we adopted specific behavior characteristics and behavior scripts to cope in our dysfunctional environment we masked, covered up, or forgot the "real'' inner child we had been.
  
• Comes back to many of us in our dreams or daydreams. We can clearly picture what the little child looks like and how the child is feeling and acting.
  
• Is the person we controlled, repressed, and hid in order to survive in the world of stress. Since it was repressed we held onto it in our subconscious.
  
• Is the link we have to our spiritual being because it is in the spirit realm rather than in the realm of conscious behavior.
  
• Is a component of our current value and belief system; however, we are unaware of its influence on our decisions.
  
• Exists because when we were overcome by guilt as children, we climbed inside of ourselves to avoid the feelings of not being ``good enough.''
  
• Exists because when we were little our family rules required that we present an image of a happy, healthy family, even if we weren't. So we repressed our little child to appear more responsible, serious, and achievement oriented.

What is the unfinished business of the "Inner Child"?

From growing up in a dysfunctional family, emotional maturity was stunted.

This failure to mature left the "Inner Child" unfinished because we:

• Grew up too fast
  
• Became small adults; little “moms'” and “dads”
  
• Were either over responsible or overachievers
  
• Were emotionally vulnerable
  
• Were not given a chance to grow and mature in a normal sequence of events
  
• Put on a public “mask'” or image to stifle our child-like needs
  Repressed joy, vision, and feelings
  
• Still have an “inner child'” waiting to grow up and take its proper place

How does the "Inner Child" come into being?

The "Inner Child" comes into being by:

• A denial of true feelings
  
• A denial of the person we are
  
• Trying hard to live up to others' expectations
  
• Holding back our child-like responses, while we provide adult like responses to stress
  
• The fear of being “found out”' about how we really feel
  
• Insecurity in the midst of chaos, confusion, or the vacuum of repressed feelings
  
• A sense of obligation to always “look good'” and “be good”
  
• Inexperience at being loved for “who you are” rather than for “what you do”
  
• Not being given the role model of how to “enjoy” life and to have “fun”
  
• Always having to be “serious'” about life
  
• A lack of encouragement to broaden our scope of vision about the “potentials” in life
  
• The stress of staying vigilantly in the “here and now” so that we stay in control and the “walls didn't come tumbling down'” around us
  
• Never being given or taking the freedom to “play” and act “childish”
  
• Not being given role models of how to take pleasure out of the “little” things in life
  
• A compulsive drive to fulfill our “role” in our family
  
• Not recognizing that we can make “choices” in our lives to make it what we want it to be
  
• Continuing even now to follow our “compulsive” role(s) rather than choosing to change and be free from the restraints this compulsion creates for us
  
• Silencing our “inner child” and guarding ourselves, retreating behind “masked” barriers
  
• Feeling that it is not safe to grow up, to accept love, or to share feelings
  
• Learning to spend some time each day in pleasure and play

What are the signs of activity of the "Inner Child"?

We know our "Inner Child" is active when we:

• Lose ourselves in frolic and fun
  
• Cry at a sentimental movie or TV show
  
• Over-indulge our own children
  
• Enjoy playing with children's toys
  
• Love visiting Walt Disney World or other theme parks designed for children
  
• Seek out adult toys to play with
  
• Cry or grieve as adults for the losses we experienced in our past
  
• Still seek to please the senior members of our families of origin and our extended families
  
• Get sentimental looking at old photo albums, home movies, or scrap books about our childhood
  
• Experience the same intensity of feeling we had as children as we role play or act out experiences from our past
  

What messages did the "Inner Child" need to hear, but which went unsaid?

When the "Inner Child" climbed inside you it probably was hoping to hear:

• I love you, I care about you, and I accept you just the way you are
  
• I am so proud of you and all that you are
  
• I am so happy you are my child
  
• You are so beautiful and attractive
  
• You are so bright and talented
  
• You are so artistic and creative
  
• You are such a good worker
  
• I am sorry I hurt you
  
• I am sorry I neglected you
  
• I am sorry I forgot you
  
• I am sorry I ignored you
  
• I am sorry I took you for granted
  
• I am sorry I made you grow up so fast
  
• I am sorry I had to rely on you so much
  
• You can trust me to take care of you
  
• You can trust me to be there for you
  
• You can trust me to protect you from any hurt or pain
  
• I will get help for myself and for the family
  
• We will work at getting healthy together
  
• We will have healthy fun and play together
  

What are the negative consequences of suppressing the "Inner Child"?

When as adults we choose to suppress the memory, needs, and desires of the "Inner Child" we run the risk of:

• Never learning how to feel normally
  
• Never learning how to play and have fun
  
• Never learning how to relax and manage stress
  
• Never learning how to appreciate life. We would rather work at living
  
• Taking ourselves too seriously
  
• Feeling guilty over not being “good enough” and driving ourselves to work harder to be “good enough”
  
• Becoming workaholics
  
• Not enjoying our family life with our children
  
• Being suspicious of people who enjoy life, have fun, and know how to play
  
• Social isolation, afraid to get involved with other people for fear we will be found out to be inadequate, not normal, or a misfit
  

What nurturing messages can you give your "Inner Child"?

You can tell your "Inner Child" that it is OK to:

· Have the freedom to make choices for itself
· Be “selfish” and do the things you want to do
· Take the time to do the things you want to do
· Associate only with the people you want to associate with
· Accept some people and to reject others
· Give and accept love from others
· Allow someone else to care for you
· Enjoy the fruits of your labor with no guilt feelings
· Take time to “play” and have “fun” each day
· Not to be so “serious”, intense, and inflexible about life
· Set limits on how you are going to relate to others
· Not always “serve” others
· Accept others “serving” you
· Be in charge of your life and not let others dictate to you
· Be honest with others about your thoughts and feelings
· Take risks and to suffer the positive or negative consequences of such risks
· Make mistakes, laugh at them, and carry on
· Let your imagination and creativity be set free and to soar with the eagles
· Cry, hurt, and to be in pain as long as you share your feelings; do not repress or suppress them
· Be angry, to express your anger, and to bring your anger to some resolution
· Make decisions for yourself
· Be a problem solver and come up with solutions with which everyone may not agree
· Feel happiness, joy, excitement, pleasure, and excitement about living
· Feel down, blue, sad, anxious, upset, and worried, as long as you share your feelings
· Love and be loved by someone whom you cherish
· Be your “Inner Child” and to let it grow up, accept love, share feelings, and enjoy pleasure and play

What are some steps by which you can help heal your "Inner Child"?

Step 1: In order to identify your “Inner Child” get into a relaxed state and close your eyes. Spend thirty minutes picturing yourself as a child between three and eight years of age. See yourself as this little child and watch yourself interacting with members of your family of origin. Look at how you as react to your family members as a little child.

Watch yourself with your playmates in the neighborhood or at school. Notice how you get along with your friends and playmates. Notice the fun you have at play and what type of play activities you enjoyed.

Watch yourself in the classroom and notice how you get along with your teacher and how you react to the school environment.

Finally, picture yourself in a family setting. Are you happy, frivolous, joyful, energetic, excited, and enjoying life? Are you serious, solemn, down, sad, unhappy, scared, disappointed, being miserable with life?

If you see only an unhappy, serious little child, try to remember your last happy experience as a child. This last remembrance of you as a happy child is the “Inner Child” who climbed inside of you to cope with stress.

Step 2: Now that you have identified your "Inner Child,'' answer the following questions in your journal:

a. How would you describe your "Inner Child?''
b. When did your "Inner Child'' go inside? What happened for your little child to climb inside of you?
c. How do you know when your "Inner Child'' is active in you?
d. What messages does your "Inner Child'' still need to hear?
e. How willing are you to give these messages to your "Inner Child?'' One way to do this is to develop self-affirmation statements that will nurture your "Inner Child'' and lead to self-healing.
f. What irrational beliefs did your "Inner Child'' have about life?
g. How willing are you to deal with these irrational beliefs and replace them with realistic truths? It is important to deal with these now so your "Inner Child'' can come out and finally enjoy life.
h. What are some of the negative consequences of suppressing your "Inner Child?''
i. How open are you to enjoying the little things in life?
j. What part does fun play in your life?

Step 3: You are now ready to make a plan of action to nurture your "Inner Child.'' Develop a plan of action and once your plan is completed, put it into action and take care of your "Inner Child''

Step 4: The following three activities can help the action, planning and nurturing of your "Inner Child:''

Activity 1: Learning How to Enjoy the Small Things in Life
Open yourself to experience joy at being alive by taking the following steps:

Step A: Open your eyes to the beauty and majesty of nature about you, e.g., paint photographs or simply observe sunrises or sunsets, a body of water, listen for bird calls, try to distinguish the different sounds, plant a garden and watch it grow.

Step B: Expand your “sensory” vocabulary. Try to experience life through all of your senses, use sight, sound, smell, and touch to explore and describe the experiences in your life.

Step C: Explore the natural environment, e.g., take a walk on the beach, relish natures’ wonders, take a walk on a wooded trail, enjoy the moonlight, the stars, and search out natures' magic.

Step D: Begin to slow down and let go. Enjoy children, pets, and the aroma of food. Listen to music, enroll in a ``fun'' class, enjoy the human side of those in your life, develop a sense of humor, a new hobby.

Activity 2: Learning How to Feel and to Share Feelings

Step A: Keep a journal in which you record your daily range of feelings.

Step B: Identify in your journal one new feeling a day to increase your feelings vocabulary.

Step C: Watch a sentimental movie and have a good cry, but pay attention to your feelings. Describe in your journal how you felt watching the movie and how you felt once you began to cry.

Step D: Begin an activity to generate positive feelings each day. Explore the world or your life in general. Recognize one good thing about it daily. Come up with a positive feeling generated by this “good thing,” add it to your feelings vocabulary in your journal.

Step E: Write a fantasy story in your journal describing you experiencing at least ten different positive feelings.

Step F: Relax and visualize yourself experiencing a positive feeling. Enjoy that visualized feeling. Once you have mastered the visualized feeling, plan an activity to make that feeling real for you. Record the experience in your journal.

Activity 3: Learning How to Play
The following tips can help you learn to play:

Step A. Let go of any guilt feelings you might have about indulging yourself in “play” activity. Redefine the role of “play” in your life. Restructure your life activities, and include some play time.

Step B. Define some “acceptable” play activities you would be willing to experiment with over the next year.

Step C. Be spontaneous and let go of the need for “rigidity” in the ways you play. Let your “child” out and freewheel through your playtime.

Step D. Don't stifle your “child-like” responses to a “play” activity. Loosen up and let go of the need to be “mature.”

Step E. Don't worry about your “public image,” as long as what you are doing harms no one. Vent gut-level frolic responses to your play activity.

Step F. Learn to be your own best friend.

Step G. Frolic and have fun without the use of artificial stimulants (drugs, alcohol, etc.)

Step H. Let your “responsible adult mind set” have a vacation. Practice looking at life with a child's perspective. Imagine how a child would view play. Let the sense of wonderment, excitement, imagination, make believe, and creativity reign.

Step I. Laughter is therapeutic and essential if playing is to be fun. Learn to let go of a good belly laugh.

Step J. Playing requires the use of fantasy. Let your fantasy life emerge and grow. Use imagination and visual imagery to broaden the scope and expand the boundaries of your “play.”

Step K. Take a risk and set up a “playtime” for your “inner child” in a family-like situation where you can play outdoors with children, e.g., have a food fight, a water sprinkling war, play Rover Red Rover, dodge ball, etc.

Step L. Give yourself a child's party. Invite your friends to bring their “inner child” to a party in which you indulge in children's games, e.g., pin the tail on the donkey, musical chairs, bobbing for apples, hopscotch, jacks, etc.

Step 5: After you have implemented your action plan using the Tools for Coping tools to nurture your "Inner Child,'' and after you have tried the three activities in Step 4, your "Inner Child'' should be more visible and active in your life.
If you still find yourself suppressing your "Inner child", return to Step 1 and begin again

The lion in UAE..(with due regards to all, interpret it in the right context)

In a poor zoo of Africa, a lion was frustrated as he was offered not more than 1 kg of meat a day.

The lion thought its prayers were answered. When one day a Dubai Zoo manager visited the zoo and requested the zoo management to shift the lion to Dubai Zoo.

The lion was so happy and started thinking of a central A/C environment, a goat or two every day.

On its first day after arrival, the lion was offered a big bag, sealed nicely for breakfast. The lion opened it quickly but was shocked to see that it contained few bananas. The lion thought that may be they cared too much for him as they were worried about his stomach as he had recently shifted. The next day the same thing happened.

On the third day again the same food bag of bananas was delivered. The lion was so furious; it stopped the delivery boy and blasted him, 'don't you know I am the lion...king of the Jungle..., what's wrong with your management'? What nonsense is this? Why are you delivering bananas to me?

The delivery boy politely said, 'Sir, I know you are the king of the jungle ... but... you have been brought here on a monkey's visa'!!!

Moral of the Story.... Better to be a Lion in your own country than be a monkey elsewhere. Do not allow yourself to be exploited....

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Attitude ...

One evening a scholar was addressing the participants on the concept of work culture. One of the participants asked the following question;

"I am a senior manager of Materials Department and I joined an organization 25 years ago as an Engineer Trainee and over the last 25 years I have gone through every experience in the organization.

During the initial part of my career, the job was very challenging and interesting.

However, all those exciting days are gone since I do not find my joy any more interesting because there is nothing new in my job. I am now feeling bored because I am doing a routine job.
However, Sir, I am living in the same house for over forty years, I am the son for the same parents for over forty five years, I am the father for the same children for the past ten years and the husband for the same lady for the past twenty years !( the toughest job!)

In these personal roles I do not feel bored Please tell me why I am bored of the routine in the office and not in the house?"

The response from Scholar was very interesting and convincing. He asked the executive the question:

"Please tell me for whom does your Mother cook ?"

The executive replied that obviously the mother cooks for others.

Then the Scholar said that the mother "Serves" others and because of this service mindedness, she is not feeling tired or bored. But in an office, we "Work" and not "Serve". Anything we consider, as service will not make us feel bored. That is difference between Serving and Working.
He asked the executive to consider his work as service and not merely a work !! This was a very interesting analysis!! Whenever you put a larger context around your work and see a broader meaning for your work, you will take interest in your work and it will make a very big difference in your internal energy.

Attitude Matters!

Swami Vivekanand shares his thoughts on GOD.

When I Asked God for Strength He Gave Me Difficult Situations to Face,

When I Asked God for Brain & Brawn He Gave Me Puzzles in Life to Solve,

When I Asked God for Happiness He Showed Me Some Unhappy People,

When I Asked God for Wealth He Showed Me How to Work Hard,

When I Asked God for Favors He Showed Me Opportunities to Work Hard,

When I Asked God for Peace He Showed Me How to Help Others,

God Gave Me Nothing I Wanted He Gave Me Everything I Needed.

- Swami Vivekananda

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Science and religion - Paper On Hinduism (Part XII)

Mukthi - the ultimate freedom - POH (Part XI)

Incident from Epic Mahabharath - POH (Part X)

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Nature of God - Paper On Hinduism (Part VIII)

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You are what you want to be...

I woke up early today, excited over all I get to do before the clock strikes midnight.

I have responsibilities to fulfill today. I am important. My job is to choose what kind of day I am going to have.

Today, I can complain because the weather is rainy or I can be thankful that the grass is getting watered for free.

Today, I can feel sad that I don't have more money or I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.

Today, I can grumble about my health or I can rejoice that I am alive.

Today, I can lament over all that my parents didn't give me when I was growing up or I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.

Today, I can cry because roses have thorns or I can celebrate that thorns have roses.

Today, I can mourn my lack of friends or I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new relationships.

Today, I can whine because I have to go to work or I can shout for joy because I have a job to do.

Today, I can complain because I have to go to school or eagerly open my mind and fill it with rich new tidbits of knowledge.

Today, I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework or I can feel honored because the Lord has provided shelter for my mind, body and soul.

Today, stretches are ahead of me, waiting to be shaped. And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.

What today will be like is up to me. I get to choose what kind of day I will have!

Have a "Great Day" ... unless you have other plans.

A man is as great as .....

A man is as great as the dreams he dreams,
As great as the love he bears,
As great as the value he redeems,
And the happiness he shares.

A man is as great as the thoughts he thinks,
As the worth he has attained;
As the fountains at which his spirits drinks,
As the insight he has gained.

A man is as great as the truth he speaks,
As great as the help he gives,
As great as the destiny he seeks,
As great as the life he lives.

- C.E. Flynn..

Learning from the trees...

Lessons From Trees

1. It's important to have roots.

2. In today's complex world, it pays to branch out.

3. If you really believe in something, don't be afraid to go out on a limb.

4. Be flexible so you don't break when a harsh wind blows.

5. Sometimes you have to shed your old bark in order to grow.

6. If you want to maintain accurate records, keep a log.

7. It's okay to be a late bloomer.

8. Avoid people who would like to cut you down.

9. As you approach the autumn of your life, you will show your true colors.

10.You could be Brilliant! In other words "bloom where you are planted"