Overcoming Fear and Facing Fear

Overcoming Fear and Facing Fear

Fear is a natural feeling yet it remains terribly difficult to overcome. The question is, is there really a way to overcome your fears? One of the things that causes our fear is thinking negatively. Have you ever realized that 80 to 90 percent of what we worry every single day of our life never really comes into reality? You should not let fears rule your life.


There are different kinds of fear: fear of rejection, fear of failure or fear of making mistakes. You should know that having this kind of fear will not help you to succeed. Fear is an obstacle or hindrance on your way to success. Watch the following videos below and start overcoming and facing your fears.


The phrase "do it anyway" holds special meaning for me because of the following words that were found written on the wall in Mother Teresa's home for children in Calcutta. They are attributed to her: 

"People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. 

"If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. 

"If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway. 

"If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway. 

"What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway. 

"If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway. 

"The good you do today will often be forgotten. Do good anyway. 

"Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway. 

"In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway."

 On your journey and inevitable achievement of great success, bear in mind this trenchant observation of Robert Frost: 

"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: It goes on." 

I like this quote for two reasons. First, it means that no one is indispensable, which is why it's so important that no matter how important or successful we may become, we should be on our toes to remain modest, friendly, and respectful to all. 

The second message I take away from Frost's words is, "This will pass." All things do. For those who suffer, this message is a gift of solace. Everytime, I am faced with a problem - I remind myself - "This will pass," and it gives me solace. i have internalized this mantra and it helps me get through difficult periods. There may come a time in your life, hopefully not for a long while and perhaps never, if you may be so blessed, that either you or a loved one will need to hear this message. At such times remember, "This will pass." It will give comfort.

Ella Wheeler Wilcox wrote a poem on this subject … 

THIS TOO SHALL PASS AWAY 

A mighty monarch in the days of old

Made offer of high honor, wealth, and gold, 

To one who should produce in form concise 

A motto for his guidance, terse yet wise-- 

A precept, soothing in his hours forlorn, 

Yet one that in his prosperous days would warn. 

Many the maxims sent the king, men say. 

The one he chose: "This too shall pass away." 

Oh, jewel sentence from the mine of truth! 

What riches it contains for age or youth.

No stately epic, measured and sublime, 

So comforts, or so counsels, for all time 

As these few words. Go write them on your heart 

And make them of your daily life a part. 

Has some misfortune fallen to your lot? 

This too will pass away—absorb the thought. 

And wait; your waiting will not be in vain, 

Time gilds with gold the iron links of pain. 

The dark today leads into light tomorrow; 

There is no endless joy, no endless sorrow. 

Are you upon earth's heights? No cloud in view? 

Go read your motto once again: 

This too Shall pass away; fame, glory, place and power, 

They are but little baubles of the hour, 

Flung by the ruthless years down in the dust. 

Take warning and be worthy of God's trust. 

Use well your prowess while it lasts; leave bloom, 

Not blight, to mark your footprints to the tomb. 

The truest greatness lies in being kind, 

The truest wisdom in a happy mind. 

He who desponds, his Maker's judgment mocks; 

The gloomy Christian is a paradox. 

Only the sunny soul respects its God. 

Since life is short we need to make it broad; 

Since life is brief we need to make it bright. 

Then keep the old king's motto well in sight, 

And let its meaning permeate each day. 

Whatever comes, This too shall pass away.

Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed...

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality.

I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
 
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what  others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

Source :http://www.ariseindiaforum.org/nurse-reveals-the-top-5-regrets-people-make-on-their-deathbed/

The world is mine ( a wonderful poem )...

The World is Mine

Today, upon a bus, I saw a very beautiful woman,
And wished I were as beautiful.
When suddenly she rose to leave,
I saw her hobble down the aisle.
She had one leg and wore a crutch.
But as she passed, she passed a smile.
Oh, God, forgive me when I whine.
I have two legs; the world is mine.

I stopped to buy some candy,
The lad who sold it had such charm,
I talked with him, he seemed so glad,
If I were late, it'd do no harm.
And as I left, he said to me,
"I thank you, you've been so kind.
It's nice to talk with folks like you.
You see," he said, "I'm blind."
Oh, God, forgive me when I whine.
I have two eyes; the world is mine.

Later while walking down the street,
I saw a child I knew.
He stood and watched the others play,
but he did not know what to do.
I stopped a moment and then I said,
"Why don't you join them dear?"
He looked ahead without a word,
I forgot, he couldn't hear.
Oh, God, forgive me when I whine,
I have two ears; the world is mine.

With feet to take me where I'd go,
With eyes to see the sunset's glow,
With ears to hear what I'd know.
Oh, God, forgive me when I whine,
I've been blessed indeed, the world is mine.

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